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Dedicated to all my single ladies! The Last Single Girl Post + Thanksgiving Recipes!

For those of you who have been following my blog know my story, if not, it goes something like this…
Pumpkin Cake Bars (reduced-fat)

Married at 30, divorced, single again, and on my own for the very first time. It was a tough phase and I went through some hardships, but I also ended up learning a lot about myself. For someone who was once terrified of living alone, I finally started to enjoy my own company. I learned to focus on the good, eliminate all negativity from my life, and started to find joy in the things I once used to enjoy. And then one day when I least expected it, love found me.
Pumpkin Chocolate Chip Bread (100% Whole Wheat, lightened up)

If there is one thing I know, life doesn’t always go the way you plan. Growing up in an Indian home there was a LOT of pressure to get married by the age of 24, 25, 26. This expectation to have a home and kid by 30 was constantly felt. I gave into the pressure and constantly worried meeting someone in my 20s that I forgot to “live” life. Now in retrospect, I realize my 20s were probably the best years of my life, but sadly, I felt if I didn’t meet someone and get married by 30, I was doomed. And this is exactly how I led myself to believe that marriage was the answer to all my problems and ended up making a huge mistake the first time around. I gave into my own fears and insecurities knowing all along that it didn’t feel right.
Pumpkin Spice Hot Chocolate (reduced-fat)

I wish there was someone around to tell me what marriage entailed, so should you do decide to get married, make sure he’s the right guy for you. I wish there was someone around to tell me that marriage is hard with the right person, but with the wrong person you are better off being alone than married and miserable. I wish there was someone around to tell me that if I didn’t meet the right guy by 25, 30, 35, that it would be okay, and it would eventually happen, or it may not, and I would be okay. I wish there was someone around to tell me that regardless of what happens I need to find happiness within myself and that if love finds me, I will have so much more to offer. I wish there was someone to tell me that I should never settle for less than I deserve.
Pumpkin Bundt Cake

Unfortunately, in an Indian household you will rarely ever hear that.
Pumpkin Biroche Bread Pudding

If I could give my 20-something year old self advice, it would be, “don’t settle… focus on yourself… build a career and lasting friendships… what’s meant to be will be… you will be okay!” And that’s the message I want to convey today because I know there are many of you out there who feel “this pressure” to do things by the book, but sometimes things just don’t go according to our plan and sometimes we need to trust in God’s plan.
Pumpkin Banana Bread (100% whole wheat, lightened up)

So now here I am trusting in God’s plan that arrived at my doorstep a couple years ago, and I’m marrying him this weekend. This time it feels right and I listened to my gut all along. Sure I’m nervous, anxious, overwhelmed, scared to move (eventually), but I finally know after all these years what “right” feels like, I only wish I knew sooner. Sometimes love comes to us earlier in life, sometimes it finds us later in life, but when you know, you’ll know. I promise!
Pumpkin Pie Pancakes (100% whole wheat)

On that note, I wish you all a very Happy Thanksgiving. Hope you have an amazing holiday sharing it with the ones you love.
Pumpkin Pie French Toast (lightened up)

Thanksgiving Recipes

What are you making this Thanksgiving? Thoughts on life.. do you listen to your gut? Do you believe things happen for a reason?


Hi, I'm Nisha!

I'm a foodie who is passionate about healthy-ish living and mindful eating. You'll find a bit of everything here. I use mostly organic real ingredients and incorporate seasonal produce in my cooking. I believe food is medicine. Join me on this soul-searching journey as I share my love for good food, and I hope I inspire you to eat better somewhere along the way.


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6 Comments

    1. Hey Nina. Thank you so much. Sorry for the late reply, just getting back to real life. Appreciate it. Happy New Year!

  1. Marriage — with the right person, of course — can be wonderful. Mrs KR and I have been head-over-heels in love for decades. An experience I recommend highly. 🙂 Best wishes to you!

    1. Thanks John.. I wouldn’t know, but now I do. Thank you so much for saying that.. and that is so nice to see people are still “head over heels” a decade later. That’s rare to find and have. Happy New Year!

  2. Congrats on your wedding. I’m Nigerian and just turned 28. The pressure is both internal and external but I’m determined to make the most of this time. It’s hard not to let stuff get to you but I make it a conscious effort to encourage myself. One day, marriage will happen but until then, I’m getting better all round! God bless your home. P. S. : I’m your follower on instagram. Cheers

    1. OMG… I was born in Nigeria.. wish I saw this sooner. Yes, I’m sure you face the same issues as Indian women do. Yes, you can’t let it get to you, but it’s hard when those values are instilled in you from a young age. I’m sure it will happen.. don’t rush it.. it’s not worth it. Thank you so much for following and your comment. Happy New Year, Faith!